“Mother’s Day Poem”
by Rhonda Ryder

You nurture
You love
You listen
You praise

You tickle
You cook
You work
You’re amazed

You wonder
You worry
You try not to nag

You holler
You apologize
Pack their lunch in a bag

Are you doing the right things?
Will their self esteem soar?
Are you working too much?
Should you be home more?

Your children are blessed
To have you by their side
They’re always connected
With their Inner Guide

Their GPS system is solid
Their senses in tune
Just nudge them to listen
They’ll fly to the moon

H A P P Y   M O T H E R S   D A Y

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Rhonda Ryder
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Here is an excerpt from my interview with Elyse Hope Killoran. This is part of a Bonus Interview included in
Inspired Parenting

Inspired Parenting is a program which includes interviews with 5 Gurus from The Secret

EXCERPT FROM ELYSE HOPE KILLORAN INTERVIEW:

“I want to start with talking about what it means to teach the Law of Attraction.  I don’t believe that we teach the Law of Attraction with our words.  I believe we teach the Law of Attraction through our behaviors, our energy, and through the way that we are in the world.

Instead of thinking about how you can talk to your children about the Law of Attraction, it might be most effective for you to consider how you can model, for your children, your own belief, and conviction that the Law of Attraction is real.  I think that comes down to one idea, which is a really unusual and unique parenting philosophy.  I think that if you adopt this, you will find that you are not only living the Law of Attraction more effectively in your life, but that you’re modeling it more effectively for your children.  That is this underlying belief that all is well.

All is well is the foundation of believing in the Law of Attraction.  If the Law of Attraction is a mirror or a Xerox machine, it produces in your life an exact replication of what you’re thinking and feeling.  Believing as deeply as you can that all is well is what’s necessary to create all is well, and getting better in your life.  That’s the foundation that I seek to come from as much as I can in my interactions with my children.

I know this is 180 degrees skewed from the way my mother came at parenting me.  My mother came at parenting from a tremendous concern about the dangers of the world, and all the things that could go wrong.  She wanted me to be prepared for this dangerous world that I would have to navigate.

If that is your conviction, that the world is not safe, that there are a lot of things you need to protect yourself from, that is going to lead to a certain kind of conversation, behavior, and modeling to your children, that is not pleasantly harmonious with the Law of Attraction.  From that perspective, you’re going to actually invite in those negative experiences.  Planting yourself with a belief that all is well is the first key, I think, to being an effective parent, using the Law of Attraction.

The second key is a real belief in your children and their potential, and their own power to receive guidance beyond you.  That’s another thing that I know is 180 degrees from the way a lot of us were raised.  A lot of us were raised that our parents know best.  We should always turn to them because they are the authority.  We should give our decision making power to them.

That is one philosophy of parenting, and it leads to a certain experience between parent and children, that is not in harmony with teaching children about the Law of Attraction.  If you want your children to be able to utilize the Law of Attraction in their life in positive ways, then you want them to learn to trust themselves; to believe in themselves; to trust that they can find their own answers, whether you’re around or not.

Those would be two paradoxical perspectives on parenting.  If you can live by those two, I think you have an excellent chance of being able to guide your children in really positive ways.

I gave Rhonda a sheet.  It’s a list of ten points that I personally refer to when I’m trying to center myself around my own parenting philosophy.  It’s my actual sheet.  It mentions my children’s’ names on it.  You’ll want to adopt it; put your kids’ names on it.  Write their best qualities.  It’s my reminder everyday about the kind of parent that I choose to be.  It starts off with the idea of:

One: Being a model of the idea that I am part of a very wonderfully supported experience… that the world really is taking good care of me.  The Law of Attraction does take care of all of my needs.

Two: It also reminds me to believe strongly in the idea that I’m being guided and that my children are being guided.

It also reminds me to let go of worry, control, criticism, fear, and negativity.  Obviously, if you’re consumed by any of those, that’s what you’re transmitting to your children.  That’s what the Law of Attraction will be responding to and expanding on in your life.”

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I attend a Law of Attraction meeting every other Friday near my house, and it has been a wonderful blessing in my life. In fact, one of my KidsAwakening subscribers told me about it (whom I’ve yet to meet!).

Karen Williams, who hosts the meeting along with her husband Mark, read the following article at our last Friday get-together. I thought it was so good, I wanted to share it with you. It has to do with teaching kids prosperity thinking.

It’s an article that is posted on her blog. You can see the original post here: 2/17/2009 3:28 PM

(Note: Abraham refers to Esther Hicks who shares the teachings of Abraham. You can find out more about these teachings at www.abraham-hicks.com).

Finding Abundance Smack-Dab in the Midst of Lack

Posted by Karen Williams at 2/17/2009 3:28 PM
Categories: Abundance,Dollars,Prosperity

QUESTION TO KAREN FROM BEA:

I know of a child whose parents are both without jobs and are facing difficult times, even contemplating declaring themselves bankrupt. How do you explain this to a child and to all the little ones that there is an abundance beyond what they see right now?

I ask, because more than anything, I want to work and teach in the area of bankruptcy, and I am not sure how I truly feel the abundance myself so that I can give value and joy to those I work with.

Abraham always talks of abundance, and I believe that completely. However, in this world today, where we are constantly hearing of economic downturns, bankruptcy and layoffs, how do you understand for yourself and help a child see the abundance?

Thanks, Bea, for this good question:

Abraham always talks of abundance, and I believe that completely. However, in this world today, where we are constantly hearing of economic downturns, bankruptcy and layoffs, how do you understand for yourself and help a child see the abundance? I know of a child whose parents are both without jobs and are facing difficult times, even contemplating declaring themselves bankrupt. How do you explain to this child and to all the little ones that there is an abundance beyond what they see right now? I ask, because more than anything, I want to work and teach in the area of bankruptcy, and I am not sure how I truly feel the abundance myself so that I can give value and joy to those I work with.

With regard to teaching that this is a world of prosperity and well-being, I think our first step is manifesting abundance ourselves. As Abraham says, words don’t teach; experience teaches. As we model living prosperously, regardless of what’s happening in society at large, we teach, loud and clear, that another reality is indeed possible.

Last autumn, Mark and I declared that we would not participate in the economic recession. A few times since then, I’ve thought, “Uh-oh, WHY did we openly state that?” Ha. But for the most part, I can say that Mark’s business (pay phones and ATMs) is enjoying unprecedented growth.

When we dropped off some of our tax preparation papers at our accountant’s office on Saturday, he told us that at least 40% of his clients (mostly businesses) are in serious trouble. He looked at us incredulously as we told him our only real business problem is keeping up with the startling demand. We are thriving.

It’s not because we’re smarter or luckier or involved in some sort of magical business. (Pay phones…hello.) (Ha.) It’s because we have learned, courtesy of honest Abe, to focus on what we want (abundance), not on what we don’t want (lack), even if everybody and their brother are shouting from the rooftops how utterly bad things are.

We deliberately look for thriving. We notice the people at Starbucks who stand in line or queue up at the drive-through for $5.00 cups of coffee. When we go to a weekly book club at Barnes & Noble at the mall, we notice how the parking lot is often filled with cars. We notice luxury cars on the road. When we go into a store, we look for the array of new products on the shelves. We notice the people who are doing well, and thus we attract more evidence of that same thing, courtesy of Law of Attraction.

That’s what it’s about:  mental focus. We take our attention off of supposedly rampant economic problems and place our focus, instead, on prosperity. And it’s paying off. (Bad pun.)

Abraham words it beautifully on page 58 of their book, Money, and the Law of Attraction:

“As you make the decision that you want to feel good and you consciously look for positive aspects within the subjects that you are involved in every day, and as you deliberately identify and focus upon what you do want regarding these subjects, you will set yourself upon a path of Eternal unfolding satisfaction and joy.

“These processes are simple to understand and to apply, but do not let their simplicity cause you to underestimate their power. Consistently apply them and show yourself the leverage of the power of aligned thought. Discover the power of the Energy that creates worlds – the power that you have always had ready access to but which you now understand how to apply – and focus it toward your own personal creations.”   [Italics are Abraham's]

As Abraham reminds us, no matter where we are (even bankruptcy), we can always get to where we want to be (thriving). It requires choosing good-feeling thoughts deliberately and consistently – one at a time, little by little by little.

Let’s enjoy the heck out of this prosperity journey as we demonstrate what’s possible for others of all ages.

Photo: Karen Williams

To read more of Karen’s wisdom and humor on all things Abraham and The Law of Attractions, visit:

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I was on a teleconference where Rich German (www.richgerman.com) of True Wealth Coaching was interviewing Marie Diamond at the end of 2008 and something they both talked about made a profound difference in my life.

They talked a lot about gratitude and how that was one of the most important things they focused on to keep themselves in harmony and on a high vibration.

I’m not sure if it was Marie or Rich who gave me this idea, but one of them shared that before they go to bed each night, the last thing they do when they’ve got their head on the pillow is think of 10 things that they’re grateful for and the first thing they do in the morning, before they get out of bed is think of 10 things they are grateful for.

This sounded like a great idea to me, so I started doing it.

At first it seemed like I was just going through the motions. Hmmm, ok, I’m grateful for the roof over my head. I’m grateful for my bed. I’m grateful for my family. But after a few days, I felt the shift. Something was happening, even though I thought I was just going through the motions.

So then I thought, hmmmm, what if I really put some positive emotion into this? I know how powerful feelings are.

So then I started to really try and be authentic…what am I REALLY grateful for? What REALLY makes me happy?

Some days the answers just flowed out of me like an open faucet…and other times I had to dig.

My state of mind kept climbing. My days were more enjoyable. I wound up taking that attitude of gratitude with me all throughout the day.

Then something interesting happened. Occasionally, I started giving thanks to things that weren’t in my experience yet…but things that I wanted.

Like Amanda (my daughter) doing better in math. Or Austin (my son) getting physically active.

I had no expectations. I just started adding to my list in the morning and at night:

I am grateful that Amanda is getting good grades in math. (she wasn’t at the time)

I am grateful that Austin is physically fit and healthy. (he wasn’t exercising much at the time)

And then, interesting things started happening. The very thing that I started giving thanks for that wasn’t manifested yet…started to manifest in my reality.

My daughter would come up with some good news about math, a better grade or a 100 on a test.

And my son would suddenly ask for a ride to the gym.

Incredible!

I even used this method for things that I wanted.

I started giving thanks for my healthy and fit body and seeing myself working out at the gym, lifting weights, doing group cardio classes.

And guess what I’m doing now?

(Okay, that one took a while…but I’m there. In fact, I think I’ll start giving thanks each night and morning for my excellent coordination in the Step Class…because…let’s just say that my feet are doing one thing and it looks nothing like what the rest of the class are doing.)

So I like to mix it up a little. I really follow my guidance here. Every night I give thanks for things that have manifested, but if the spirit moves me, I also give thanks for things I want that I have NOT manifested yet.

This could even include a better relationship with my kids.  I might say something like… “I am grateful that my family gets to spend quality time together.”

Whatever it is your want, you can give thanks for already having it and you’ll be amazed what happens.

You’ll be amazed what happens if you start thinking of 10 things you’re grateful for before you go to sleep and 10 things you’re grateful for before you get out of bed in the morning. It only takes a few minutes…and it is so worth it.

Try it out and let me know how it goes.

Leave a comment below if you’d like!

It’s almost 8:15 pm and I’m sitting here watching my daughter jump around on the trampoline during her gymnastics lesson.

She had a competition yesterday in Orlando, and I was unprepared for the little “conflict” we had about her hair.

She wanted to leave it messy, with long pieces sticking straight out of a loosely fitted pony tail.

I wanted her to have her hair in a tight little bun like the rest of the girls.

Now I have to admit, I get a little hyper when I have coffee.  To be blunt, coffee should be banned from my lips. My husband is the only one who really understands what I’m saying because he often is the one who suffers when I’m hyper. I won’t stop talking. I’m on edge and I must verbalize all my thoughts. Not to mention that I usually can’t sleep that night no matter how early in the morning I had the coffee. Sometimes the coffee won’t keep me up but if it’s Dunkin Donuts or Starbucks, you can bet it’s going to be a long night.

But I digress.

I was talking about my daughter’s crazy hair. On competition day no less!

Every time we have a competition she seems to get all stressed out about her hair. Why, I don’t know. On this particular day, I tried to stay out of it and let her do her own thing. “She’s growing up; she wants her independence,” I thought. “Let me give her some space.”

Now, I’m all for self expression and freedom and if she wanted to display her rather “interesting” hairdo outside to play, I would have no problem.

But when you compete for gymnastics, they have rules and they will deduct points for hair that is not in a bun pulled away from the face. Or for bobby pins that go flying out of your head while you’re doing your back flips on the trampoline. Not only that, if the hair is not pulled back securely, it becomes a distraction for the athlete who should be focused on their performance and not worried about their hair tumbling down at the most inopportune moment.

I don’t know if it was the coffee or what, but I wanted her hair fixed. I tried being nice. I tried “partnership parenting”, as my friend Dawn Michaels from www.LawofAttractionSingles.com calls it. But nothing worked.

So I resorted to, dare I say, “bully parenting”.

I demanded she fix her hair. I threatened to take her home and pull her out of gymnastics. I told her this was her last competition.

My husband said, “Please don’t drink coffee anymore.”

Long story short, my daughter fixed her hair.

I took a walk.

During my walk, I wondered why I was so upset. What had gotten to me so bad? What buttons had been pushed? I used all my formulas, the h’oponoopono Hawaiian healing formula from Joe Vitale’s book, “Zero Limits” that I always use when I get rattled.

It took a while to get quiet and centered…to figure out what was going on with me.

I went back to the competition and practiced being in the moment.

Half way though the day my daughter stopped avoiding making eye contact with me and things were back to normal. Her smile returned. When we got home, we had a discussion (mom-initiated of course).

Instead of threatening her with pulling her out of gymnastics (a Bully-parenting technique which doesn’t work too well in my house by the way), here is what I said:

“I don’t mind taking you to gymnastics and paying for your monthly lessons and your competition fees…and paying for the travel and hotels sometimes needed to compete. I love that you are athletic and talented and I love that you are exercising and keeping in shape and healthy. I would like you to stay in gymnastics if that’s what you want. And I think you have some choices to make. ….if we continue competing, you can allow me to help you fix your hair so that it meets the guidelines and my guidelines, or you can have someone else help you with your hair or you can do it yourself, as long as it meets the standards (and I get to say if it meets the standards or not).You can let me know what you decide.”

And she agreed to fix her hair according to the guidelines and keep competing.

Now, I’m not sure if there was a little bully parenting thrown in there…but it felt right for me to have that discussion. That was my truth and those were my requirements if I was going to continue to support her competing. And to me, that is what Law of Attraction parenting is all about. Following and trusting your guidance.

I try to give my kids space and freedom as much as I can. I’ve given up trying to micro-manage them. It just doesn’t work for us. The more freedom and love and attention and encouragement I give them…the better things get. I am so grateful every day. Sure, we had a little “hair drama” on Sunday…but we worked it out.

Next competition, however, I think I’ll skip the coffee.

I can’t wait to interview Jennifer Hough (prounced Huff) of www.TheVitalYou.com on Feb. 3 because I cannot wait to ask her the following questions about the Indigo/ADD connection in children.

www.kidsawakening.com/teleseminar

Here’s a few of the questions I will ask Jennifer during our call:

*Are children different now than they were 20 years ago? Why?

*Can we parent the same way that we did 20 years ago?

*Why do rules seem to make things worse….and how do we still both get our needs met?

*Is ADD Real, or medically invented? Are drugs necessary?

*How can we, as parents, have more energy on less sleep….right away?

*How do I know my child is an Indigo?

*What is the major shift we need to make in the way we look at parenting?

*How can children and their parents both be happy – concurrently?

*How do we, as parents, make sure our children can function in the ‘real world”?

*What are our children here to teach us?

*If you’d like to read up on Indigo children before the call, here’s an excerpt from the following website:

http://www.starchild.co.za/what.html

“Both generations are highly sensitive and psychic, and have important life purposes. The main difference is their temperament. Indigos have a warrior spirit, because their collective purpose is to mash down old systems that no longer serve us. They are here to quash government, educational, and legal systems that lack integrity. To accomplish this end, they need tempers and fiery determination.

Those adults who resist change and who value conformity may misunderstand the Indigos. They are often mislabeled with psychiatric diagnoses of Attention Deficit with Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) or Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD). Sadly, when they are medicated, the Indigos often lose their beautiful sensitivity, spiritual gifts and warrior energy……….In contrast, the Crystal Children are blissful and even-tempered. Sure, they may have tantrums occasionally, but these children are largely forgiving and easy-going. The Crystals are the generation who benefit from the Indigos trailblazing.

First, the Indigo Children lead with a machete, cutting down anything that lacks integrity. Then the Crystal Children follow the cleared path, into a safer and more secure world.

The terms “Indigo” and “Crystal” were given to these two generations because they most accurately describe their aura colours and energy patterns. Indigo children have a lot of indigo blue in their auras. This is the colour of the “third eye chakra”, which is the energy center inside the head located between the two eyebrows. This chakra regulates clairvoyance, or the ability to see energy, visions, and spirits. Many of the Indigo children are clairvoyant

The Crystal Children have opalescent auras, with beautiful multi-colours in pastel hues. This generation also shows a fascination for crystals and rocks……

Indigo Children can sense dishonesty, like a dog can sense fear. Indigos know when they’re being lied to, patronized, or manipulated. And since their collective purpose is to usher us into a new world of integrity, the Indigos inner lie-detectors are integral. As mentioned before, this warrior spirit is threatening to some adults. And the Indigos are unable to conform to dysfunctional situations at home, work, or school. They don’t have the ability to dissociate from their feelings and pretend like everything’s okay …unless they are medicated or sedated.”

End of excerpt.

Hope you can make it. I for one am so curious to find out if my children or my neice are Indigo children.

www.kidsawakening.com/teleseminar

Light and Love,
Rhonda

Rhonda Ryder
Founder, Kids Awakening
Kidsawakening.com

I just love this story Abraham tells about Esther and Jerry and their chicken and hen. 

Pushing my 16 year old son to get a job because I want him to learn how to take care of himself, not necessarily because I don’t want to give him any money anymore…is what I’m dealing with right now.

I’m “pecking him on the head.” Watch the video and you’ll understand what I mean :).

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lLeWQK7GXvA

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Happy New Year! Hope this will be a miracle loving, amazing life growing year for you and your family!

I just had to take a moment to share a some great insights on parenting from one of my favorite books, “The Astonishing Power of Emotions”  by Esther and Jerry Hicks.

In this chapter, a parent is concerned that her daughter keeps lying.

(I’ve never personally experienced this of course, wink wink. Well, not very much anyway, thank goodness!)

Here’s an excerpt from what Abraham says:

“People often think that children who can be easily guided, who always do what is asked of them, and who are easily compliant are very good children. But children who have minds of their own-who do not want to go along with the ideas of others-are often regarded as troublesome and difficult.

Problems do not usually arise until their own life experience has caused them to put things in their own Vibrational Escrow (that they are being called toward) and then someone else in their life tries to keep them from following that calling.

Most of the struggle between parents and children exists because parents are not willing to allow their children to live the lives that the children have come forth to live. Parents are usually extremely well intentioned, wanting what they have been taught to believe is best for their child, but every person who comes forth into this physical experience comes with his or her own purpose and plan.

By layout out guidelines and rules, and by carefully watching your children to be sure they are doing as you say, you are actually undermining an essential tenet of their very existence. You are not allowing them to choose. And often you project the attitude that you do not trust them. And, for most, once they get a whiff of that from you, you are not the well received, since it is so contrary to the understanding of their own Inner Being. In other words, the less time they can spend around you and that attitude, the better they like it.

When anyone gets between you and your intention to be the creator of your own experience, watch out, because it never works out well.

When you present strong rules to your children-or to anyone-you are, without meaning to, actually cultivating the perfect environment for lying. When your children observe your positive response when they keep your rules and your negative response whenever they break your rules, often your response becomes their dominant intention, and how they achieve that response becomes a lesser issue. They lie to you in an effort to keep you feeling good.

Nothing can fill the void caused by disconnection with your own Inner Being other than reconnection with it; and once you have discovered the wonderful experience of managing your own connection with Source, then you can encourage the same in your children. As your children witness your clarity, lightheartedness, and your overall Well-Being, you will teach them, through the power of your own example, how to connect with their own guidance. And that understanding is much more valuable than getting them to comply with any rules that you might impose.

It is an interesting thing to see. Your daughter, for whatever reason, is not connected to Source, and therefore she feels bad. You observe in her what you do not want to see; therefore, you are not Connected to Source, and so you feel bad. You blame your daughter for the way you feel. Your daughter blames you for the way she feels, and on it goes.

As you deliverately reach for downstream thoughts regarding your daughter (even though your current evidence doesn’t easily evoke them), and you manage to release your resistance and come into alignment with who-you-really-are, it will become easier and easier for you to see your daughter though the eyes of your Broader Perspective. And as you achieve that, it is our absolute promise that you will inspire the Connection within your daughter as well.”

When you are in alignment with who-you-really-are, you will only be seeing the very best in your daughter. And when your daughter is in alignment with who-she-really-is, she will have no reason to tell you lies.

There is no greater gift that a parent could give to their children than the example of being aligned with their own guidance. And so, as you become one who consistently looks for and finds downstream thoughts of alignment, your children will learn to maintain their Connection with that broader guidance as w3ell-and then this gift of thriving can be passed on from generation to generation.

So begin where you are, and reach for improved feelings about your daughter.”

Did you like this excerpt? What do you think? Share your thoughts!

I’m so excited about my teleseminar tomorrow, “Creating Abundance in a Recession’.

You know, I just listened to a audio tape made in 1992 by Marianne Williamson on “Money and Spirituality” or some topic like that.  She mentioned that we’re not depressed because there is a recession, there is a recession because we are depressed.

In other words, the collective consciousness creates the manifestation.

First comes the thought, then comes the manifestation.

Therefore, if your thoughts are about abundance, you will create that in your experience. Sounds easy. Then why is it hard sometimes? hmmmm…would love to answer…but…

I’m about to run out of battery. Come and listen to the call tomorrow night and we;ll talk about it…

still time to sign up for the teleseminar: http://www.kidsawakening.com/call

Abundance for all.

Join Us Live for a Conversation with Jennifer Munger

After spending 17 years on Wall Street working 70+ hours per week, Jennifer soon realized her grueling lifestyle was stealing her away from the two people she loved most: Her husband and her two-year-old son.

Jennifer left Wall Street to start her own home-based business: Helping others achieve their life long goals. Jennifer is now an avid student of personal development and practitioner of the Law of Attraction, helping hundreds of people around the globe create abundant lives for themselves and their families.

Please join us on Thursday, November 20
at 6pm PST (9pm EST) for a FREE Tele-seminar

Click here to sign up:

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Here’s just a taste of what you’ll learn:

• How your belief system dictates your reality
• How your “Why” drives your actions
• How your limited beliefs affect what you teach your children
• How to re-define your belief system
• How to raise your kids to embrace an abundant mind-set
• How to live a life of abundance and pass it on to your children

We only have a limited number of spots available, so sign up now!

It takes place on November 20, just six days before Thanksgiving. A perfect time to focus on  thankfulness for all that we have, and to create an abundant mindset.